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The Day I Was Punked Into Purpose


Ashton Kutcher and his TV crew may not have been present, but your girl got straight up punked! Last November, I attended the Business Boutique conference in Nashville. On the last day, host Christy Wright, decided to pull a fast one on a couple thousand women – including yours truly. And I’m so glad she did!

Here’s how it went down. In the workbook that was provided, there was a blank page towards the back that had a spot for the date and “Dear ________,”. After spending most of the day focusing on how to push through fear and do it scared, we were asked to turn to that blank page. Next, we were instructed to write a letter to a fellow dreamer aka total stranger sitting in that same auditorium. We wouldn’t know whose hands our letter would get to until later on.

So, out came the pencil and I got to writing.

Dear ___________,

The desire in your heart to do this is not an accident. You were made for such a time as this and you are going to do great things. Start with your own personal world and see where it goes and grows. You’re going to make a difference. Say God yeses over and over and over and He will provide. When He gives you vision, He gives you provision! Keep going! You are loved, you are awesome, you are a badass. Claim it, own it, live it out!


Enter the punk of all punks. Five or ten minutes later, the host bee bops back on stage and says something along the lines of, “Okay, now I want you to write your name on that blank line.”

The room fell silent. That letter took on an entire new meaning seeing my name at the top. I wrote a letter to a stranger, but it was actually exactly what I needed to hear. And judging from the women who got a chance to read theirs on stage (most nearly sobbing through it), they were in the same boat.

Isn’t it so much easier to sit back and encourage those around us to go and do their thing? Why does speaking life into others’ lives and dreams come so natural, but when it comes to our own we can’t find the words? How come we can so easily point out the best qualities in her, but when we look in the mirror we give our flaws the loudest microphone? Why is it that we are so quick to shake off those desires that keep resurfacing, but are so slow to take the first step?

Don’t stop encouraging others. Champion the women in your life. Speak life into those around you. Keep on keepin’ on, but don’t lose yourself in it! Don’t forget to take some time to think about you! Your hopes. Your dreams. Your desires. Give yourself permission!

I challenge you to put your name on that blank line and re-read the letter. Pay close attention to what comes to mind. Maybe it’s a career change. Maybe it’s a business idea. Maybe it’s to start volunteering for a cause you feel passionately about. Maybe it’s to foster kiddos. Maybe it’s to move. Maybe it’s to get in shape. Maybe it’s to start that side hustle. Maybe it’s to reach out to that person. Maybe it’s to have the hard conversation. Maybe it’s to go back to school. Maybe it’s to be a stay-at-home mom. Maybe it’s to start a bible study. Maybe it’s to take a break.

If you’re waiting until you’re not scared to do what you want to do, you’re going to spend your whole life waiting. The antidote to fear is action. Enough with the excuses! Take that first step, friend! I can’t promise it will be easy, but it will be worth it!  

Dotted & Crossed,


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